Omg, how is it New Year’s Eve once again? On the one hand, I feel as though 2018 was the longest year of my life. It seems like much more than just 12 months ago that I sat down on the couch opposite Ryan Tubridy on The Late Late Show. But, on the other hand I can’t believe 2019 is already upon us. I guess time really does fly when you’re having a really tough year full of heartbreak and tears. Lol
Ok, so it wasn’t my best year. But it taught me a lot. My first experience of heartbreak taught me what pain is. It taught me never to compromise my sense of self again. It taught me that I’m more resilient than I give myself credit for, and that no matter what happens in the future, I’ll always bounce back.
Now that the 31st of December is here, a lot of us are thinking about what we want from the year ahead and whether or not making New Year’s resolutions will help us achieve that.
It’s easy to be sceptical about making resolutions. This is especially true for those of us who have made countless resolutions in the past but have invariably failed to keep them – which is pretty much everyone, right?
There is also the argument made by lots of people that the “New year, New me” mantra flies in the face of self love. I fully agree with this, but don’t think that setting resolutions and following that mantra are the same thing. I think it’s perfectly easy to set resolutions that come from self love and a deep desire to create the future you want.
Overall, I think New Year’s resolutions can be a really powerful catalyst for change and here’s why.
The Benefits of New Year’s Resolutions
One of the best things about setting resolutions is that it forces us to reflect on the year we’ve had. Reflection is so important for anyone who’s interested in personal growth. And although you can reflect at any time, when better than at the end close of another year.
A great way to do this is to journal. You can simply scribble down the biggest experiences ofthe year and, using the mind map system, start writing down words to describe how those experiences made you feel. By doing this, you’ll soon notice patterns and common threads which will help you to really hone in on how you want to feel in 2019.
I think that setting resolutions helps us to really fine tune our personal identity. This is because our resolutions represent who we are.
For example, one ofmy resolutions is to get more tattoos. This is because tattoos are something I really see as an important part of my personal style. Although I only have a few right now, it’s a side of myself that I really want to develop.
There’s no doubt about it, resolution setting really does help us to focus on what’s important to us, what we want to prioritise in the coming months, and how we want to feel at the end of 2019. It helps us to sort between the things we want and the things we really want.
Of course, setting a whole bunch of resolutions on December 31st 2018, and not giving them a moment’s thought until December 31st 2019 isn’t going to lead to much success. It’s crucial to check in with your resolutions throughout the year if you want to stay focused.
There’s something about setting resolutions that really helps to get some perspective on the year gone by, and make peace with it before we move on to the year ahead. For me, thos has been particularly important this year.
So much of what has happened in my life over the last 12 months has been painful, and I’ve felt very lost and out of control. In a way, I guess I’ve felt a little bit resentful and bitter. But I don’t want to take these feelings into 2019 with me.
Setting resolutions, looking back on the year gone by and thinking hard about the year ahead helps us to draw a line under 2018 and let go of whatever negativity it may have caused.
I’m not saying that we can simply move on from it, or that we can choose to not be affected by the things that have happened, but we can try to start with as clean a slate as possible. And I really do think that setting resolutions helps us do just that.
So, there you have it. I love making resolutions and those are the reasons why. I do understand why so many people feel so disenfranchised with the idea of New Year’s resolutions. But I remain a firm believer that setting clear, concise intentions which are motivated by self love can really help us create the future that we want and deserve.