I recently spoke on my Instagram stories about how a cousin of mine had fat shamed a girl on TV in front of me, and how upset it had made me. To be honest, the word upset is an under statement. I was enraged.
Fat shaming others in front of fat people, is like slagging off blind people in front of other blind people, or taking the piss out of black people in front of other black people. It’s not acceptable. End of.
Unfortunately, I felt too emotional at the time to respond to my cousin in a way that wasn’t agreesive, so I took myself out of the room until I felt calmer. Having had a bad temper in the past, I used to be a huge hot head pre-counselling, I’m glad that these days I can anticipate my temper and avoid losing it at people. But I do regret missing an opportunity to explain to my cousin how his comments made me feel, and why he should be more conscious of what he says in future.
It got me thinking. What’s the point of my Instagram? Why do I post regularly about body positivity and self love? My followers know what those two terms mean. They follow me after all. I don’t need to convince them not to fat shame, or explain to them about how fat shaming makes me feel. I’m preaching to the choir.
But what about the other people, like my cousin? Shouldn’t I be spending more of my time trying to convert them? Shouldn’t I be taking advantage of every opportunity to make the people who’ve never lived in fat bodies aware of the effect their words have on us?
The answer to these question, obviously, is yes. So I’ve decided to start by emailing my cousin and explaining to him how his comments made me feel, in a way which will hopefully not come across as aggressive but will make him think twice the next time he fat shames, no matter who’s around.
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